Understanding Why People Use Coercive Control in Relationships
Coercive control is often used as a way for individuals to maintain power and dominance in a relationship. This behaviour goes beyond simply wanting influence; it is a systematic effort to control a partner’s independence, autonomy, and choices. People who use coercive control may feel a deep-seated need to be in control, stemming from insecurities, a desire for power, or ingrained beliefs about relationships. Understanding the motivations behind coercive control is essential for addressing and preventing it, both for those affected and those who exhibit these behaviours.
Our Family Violence Mindset Solutions Coercive Control Course provides insights into why people use coercive control and how understanding these motivations can aid in recognising and addressing this harmful behaviour.
Common Reasons for Using Coercive Control in Relationships
- Insecurity and Fear of Abandonment – Some individuals use control to keep their partner close, driven by fear of being left or feeling unworthy.
- Desire for Power and Dominance – Coercive control allows abusers to feel superior and in control, reinforcing a need to be dominant.
- Cultural or Societal Beliefs – Societal norms and cultural values may normalise controlling behaviours, especially around gender roles and expectations.
- Learned Behaviour from Family or Past Relationships – Some individuals mimic behaviour they witnessed in childhood or previous relationships, using coercive control because it feels familiar.
- Distorted Perceptions of Love – Abusers may believe that control is a sign of love, confusing possessiveness with care.
At Family Violence Mindset Solutions, we address these motivations to help individuals understand the roots of coercive control and take steps to change. Learn more about why coercive control occurs in relationships.
Moving Towards Understanding and Change
Recognising why coercive control happens is the first step in addressing and preventing it. Our resources help individuals and communities identify and challenge these behaviours. Contact us for support in understanding and overcoming coercive control.