Avoiding Harmful Language in Domestic Violence Disclosures
When an employee discloses a domestic violence situation, the manager’s response can significantly impact their sense of safety and wellbeing. It’s crucial to avoid certain phrases and responses that could invalidate the employee’s experience or make them feel judged. A thoughtful, empathetic approach reinforces the organisation’s commitment to supporting affected employees and builds trust in the workplace.
Family Violence Mindset Solutions offers resources to guide managers in responding to disclosures with sensitivity and awareness, ensuring employees feel safe and respected.
What Managers Should Avoid Saying in Domestic Violence Disclosures
- Avoid Blaming Language – Avoid phrases like “Why didn’t you leave sooner?” or “How did you end up in this situation?” as these may imply blame and make the employee feel judged.
- Refrain from Offering Unsolicited Advice – Avoid suggesting actions like “You should just leave,” which may overlook the complexities of the situation. Instead, listen and offer support rather than directives.
- Don’t Minimise or Dismiss Feelings – Avoid downplaying the issue by saying things like, “Everyone goes through tough times,” which can invalidate the employee’s experience and make them feel unsupported.
- Steer Clear of Personal Stories – While it may seem empathetic to share personal stories, this can shift the focus away from the employee’s needs. Keep the conversation centred on them.
- Avoid Making Promises You Can’t Keep – Be cautious about promising specific outcomes if they’re beyond your control. Instead, focus on what support the organisation can genuinely offer.
Our Family Violence Mindset Solutions resources provide training on responding to disclosures in a way that reinforces trust and compassion. Learn more about avoiding harmful language and supporting employees effectively.
Creating a Respectful and Understanding Environment
Managers who use supportive language create a workplace where employees feel respected and valued. Family Violence Mindset Solutions offers tools for handling sensitive disclosures with care. Contact us for guidance on appropriate language during these conversations.